Today there's an article about yet another "Karen" incident from a few years ago that I hadn't heard about.  Actually I grew tired of the bandwagon and began ignoring it, when it became clear that "Karen" is America's new favorite form of bullying.

Oh, I can hear you balking!  "No, Karen is the bully!  Everybody knows that" 

Let me ask you, what other demographic has a stereotype nickname based on the combination of their race/gender, that people on the left are comfortable calling them?  

What makes white women different from every other two-legged critter, that it's cool to single us out this way? 

And why are people from every other demographic relabeled white women (Karen) when they act out in public?  Why do adult Black women who go crazy on white teenage fast-food workers get called "Karen"?  Why is there "male Karen" instead of "Kevin"? 

When I was growing up, my Black friends taught me that there were only two rules I needed to know about their community, how not to give offense. 

But those two rules no longer apply at all, at least for white women.  It used to be:

1. Don't call me outside my name.
   
2. Don't tell me who I am.

And now everybody grand slams Karen and writes blog upon blog about "whiteness."

Today's round of buttholery, from The Daily Beast:

"The internet might have labeled Abigail Elphick “Victoria’s Secret Karen” in 2021, but according to a new report from The New York Times, the real story is more complicated."

I have to laugh a the pitiful dumbfuckery of the entire premise.  I laugh so I won't cry at how mean and stupid the world is.  All of this should have been really obvious with a quarter teaspoon of critical thinking, which the entire internet couldn't muster at the time.  At least the other women in the store at the time tried to be nice about it, tried to help Ms. Elphick.  That's obvious in the part of the video I watched.

"Two years ago, Ijeoma Ukenta, who is Black, posted a video to her YouTube channel with the title “Karen Goes Crazy Part 1.” At the start of the video, Elphick, who is white, seems to be reaching for Ukenta’s phone as she films. She then sinks to the floor in tears, covering her face and denying Ukenta’s claims that she’d tried to hit her. Passersby in the store remain silent while Elphick begs, “Don’t record my mental breakdown—please, please, please.” The video has netted 2.6 million views on YouTube."

There are times when the person's own side of the story makes them sound guilty, like the Daniel Holtzclaw interrogation.  And this is another one.  Ms. Ukenta is, in my opinion, an attention-seeking bully who initiated a confrontation and successfully framed herself as the victim -- for the time being.   She hit the fame-whore jackpot because Ms. Elphick happens to be a person with mental health special needs, who lives in special housing for that reason.  She was especially unprepared for this race-baiting troll. 

Remember a few years ago when rapper 50 Cent chased a guy through an airport,, recording him, calling him names and antagonizing him?  Turned out the guy was some autistic airport employee, minding his own business, doing his job. 50 Cent thought he looked like he was on drugs and started harassing him on social media.  This incident is almost exactly like that, except 50 Cent was already famous, and Ms. Ukenta wasn't until this happened.

The whole issue arose when the two women were shopping at the same store.

Ukenta said, "Back up" in that super polite and not at all Karen-y way to Elphick, who didn't leap out of her majesty's path quickly enough. 

So the horribly injured Ms. Ukenta began filming the "Karen" who was actually just shopping at a store, standing closer than this person wanted her to be. 

Because Elphick is a special-needs person, she didn't handle being trolled and race-baited well.  She started grabbing at the phone, hoping not to be recorded in a viral incident as a so-called racist and lose her home and job. 

Which is of course what this mega-twat was dreaming of, her ultimate goal of viral fame, and why I hope Ms. Elphick ruins her in court.    It was all just a giant power trip against a disabled person who didn't call her the N-word or anything else, just standing there while white woman, her worst fears of TikTok infamy waiting to be realized.

Ms. Elphick is distressed because she hadn't intended anything racist at all; she interpreted "Back up" as a threat -- as would I.  I would love to have Ms. Ukenta simply tell me to "back up" in a public space so I could invite her to "Make me."  Seriously your majesty, make me.  Pull your phone out and back me up, and let's see how it goes.

No charges were filed, because guess what?  Nothing happened.  This was yet another person who appears to have a Cluster B personality disorder, manipulating a situation so that she seems to be a victim for a huge amount of support and financial compensation. 

Ukenta was outraged when TikTok took her videos down for bullying -- which should have been a clue. She was outraged because the videos were left up on someone else's channel and not her own. 

Elphick is seen in the video sitting on the floor begging not to have her mental breakdown videotaped.  Other shoppers are trying to calm her, while Ms. Ukenta continues goading her, as the other shoppers ask her to just go away and stop it. 

Ukenta maintains a running monologue about how she needs the video because the police are definitely going to believe "her white ass over my Black ass," whatever that means.  Ma'am, nothing actually happened except you were rude and upset a disabled lady.  Then you called 911.

How anyone could possibly imagine Ms. Ukenta as the victim here is beyond me.  

The deal with "Karen" is that she's allegedly the aggressor, right?  Who started the confrontation in the first place? Who called the people with guns over nothing, because they didn't like people of another race being in the same public space
  Who's the power-tripping bully in this scenario because she wants attention from her racist extended community?

When I lived in Long Beach I learned to speak only when spoken to.  And that wasn't even enough to avoid the "reverse Karen."  That's when someone can't do some perfectly normal function of life because of the skin I'm in. 

For example, I learned that if I get on the bus or train with my walker, and people don't get out of the wheelchair seats, not to ask for them.  If I have to ask for the wheelchair seats, the answer will be very much no, no with extreme prejudice.  To be fair, that's not only with African-Americans.  But I did learn to regret breaking the "speak only when spoken to" rule with that community in Long Beach.

If people are going to give me the seats, they  just will when they see me get on.  Don't ask or it will be a major "Karen" type freakout.  I had to get back off the bus to end the tirade more than once, from someone with their cargo or e-scooter or whatever in the wheelchair seats.  I had people shove my walker into my legs, demand that I move it so they could sit there, or shove it out of the seats and into the aisle (where it can't be for the ride, so I'd have to get out of my seat and stand up with it).

Another example, I was sitting in McDonalds playing a game on my tablet.  I had finished eating and was finishing up my game.  I saw something move in my peripheral vision, so I briefly jerked my head.  I saw that someone had sat down at the table behind me.  But I was still playing, so I didn't look long enough to see who it was, only that someone sat down there.

Less than 60 seconds later my game was over.  So I picked up my stuff to clear my table.  While I was tidying up, I began to hear the person behind me grumbling:  razza frazza razza frazza.  Okay, well, LA County is the world's biggest free-range psych ward.  What's new?  At first I thought nothing of it. 

But then I heard him mumble, "Can't even sit next to a Black man!" 

So I looked up at him and realized he was glaring at me.  That's right!  He was quite sure he had been Karened, that I was leaving because he sat down.  So I explained to him that no, I was finished eating and had just finished up my game.  I didn't even see exactly who had sat down.  Really I jerked my head back too quickly to register exactly who it was that sat there.

The man accepted that explanation and we had a brief discussion; neither of us was mad about it.   But people don't necessarily wait until Karen actually does or says anything bad, they just become offended and lose it.

That was only one of many times I got reverse Karened.  In Long Beach, Karen doesn't have to do anything but be white in a scenario to piss people off.  I got called racist for asking people not to park on the sidewalk.  I got called a bitch for standing in line at the taco stand.  I got threatened with being hit by a car for crossing with the light when some lady wanted to turn right on red.  I would stand on the bus with my walker while grown-ass men slouched in the wheelchair seats, all the time.

I'm not saying this makes me special.  America is full of racists who talk all kinds of racist bullshit.  I'm just saying not all of them are white.  And a lot of them feel intensely victimized by Karen, because the wind blew while she was breathing.

I know, I know, that was all about me for sure.  And yet magically when I moved to a different part of the country -- one that didn't experience eight weeks of race rioting after George Floyd was murdered -- I no longer have to speak only when spoken to.  Overnight, Black people became nice again when I moved, go figure.

Back to the butthole du jour.  Ms. Ukenta claims that during that incident she was treated like this was the 1920s.  I wish someone would insist that she describe specific ways that she was treated like she was in the Jim Crow era when that disabled white woman didn't leap out of her way upon command, and then wasn't arrested for having a panic attack while being exploited for viral fame.  I hope they make Ms. Ukenta be specific. Unfortunately civil depositions aren't public record so I probably won't get access.

My family arrived here in the 1920s. During the 1920s my Italian cohort were also getting lynched and being placed in detention camps.  Our word for it is "linciati."   I'm not going to get into the price my family paid to immigrate here, because it's too painful and frankly too many African-Americans have shit all over it when I've tried.

I really hope Ms. Elphick wins a judgment against Ms. Ukenta such that Ukenta has nothing left to wear but discarded potato chip bags, that she has to scrounge for grass and leaves to eat for the rest of her worthless life.

I think I'm going to stop capitalizing Black when referring to people after this post.  I've been doing it most of the time because I'm aware that a lot of people prefer that.  But really, it doesn't make any sense grammatically.  It's just a hoop that people want others to jump through.  And I'm not sure it's healthy to constantly jump through people's hoops simply because they are black and I am white.  At this point I don't believe it's good for anyone, speaking as someone who grew up in a toxic family and had to learn to set limits with people.

I guess I should be grateful he got any punishment at all, that they removed him from the environment.

Are any of the other care providers who didn't notice she was pregnant for nine months being charged with her neglect?  How did nobody notice she wasn't having periods? 

Sometimes it's hard for me to believe that the world is real. 

Just when you thought things couldn't be any more decrepit or depressing, this happens.

So apparently just because you are some crusty, dusty old Registered Sex Offender, that doesn't prevent you from being left to live on an Alzheimer's unit full of elderly women that you can grope at your leisure.  Even if you're on probation and they catch you red-handed, if you're 90 years old they just leave you to it.

A nurse reportedly found some RSO actively groping this 96-year-old dementia patient who was minding her own business in her own room.  What surprises me the most is that the staff member reported it, to be honest. 

This particular menace to society, when caught, had two comments:

1. I'm dumb, I messed up.
2. She didn't say no or tell me to stop.

So that should be pretty straightforward, right?  He's a known asshole, an RSO in the first place.  He's diagnosed with a mental disorder that makes him "a violent sexual predator."  He's on probation and can be sent directly to prison for this incident.  In my opinion that's what should happen.   Lord knows what would have happened if the nurse hadn't walked in.

But no, it's all a big shrug from the legal system, really no matter how infuriating it may be.  He was left right where he is.  His probation was not violated.  As of this writing he has not been charged with anything.

The home where he lives is required by law to have a treatment plan in place for someone with any mental disorder, including one that makes them dangerous to others.  They wouldn't say if they had one in place for this attacker of a 96-year-old uncommunicative woman.  Ask yourself if it's a coincidence that he picked a person who can't communicate to pull this on, and what are the odds that this is the only thing he's done?

I understand that RSOs are human beings, and they need to live somewhere.  AND, it's not fair to have them living among vulnerable populations without warning.  That's the whole point of registering them in the first place, isn't it?  They're not supposed to be able to grope elderly dementia patients just because they enjoy that hobby.  The rest of us aren't here for their entertainment. 

I'm not in favor of turning the rest of society loose on punishing them at will.  I don't want him tarred, feathered, and lynched.  But it can't continue to be the reverse, either, where they get to exploit and abuse us freely.

So they can make separate group homes for RSOs.  The inconvenience can fall to their side, not the rest of us.  Because I hate to say it, but this will not get prosecuted as it should.  There were two of them in this one nursing home.  Rapists get old too, you know?  It sucks.  It's infuriating for this lady.  And I don't believe she will get justice.

So, since we don't have nursing homes for sex offenders, and he can't keep his hands to himself, he can go back to prison for what he just did there.  What's that you say?  Joliet is no place for a 90-year-old man?  Fuck that grandma titty groper.  Choices have consequences.  He's not safe for the rest of us and he never will be.  If they can't come up with some home for elderly sex menaces, he can go live out his days with the younger ones.

In this horrifying case, a young woman and her disabled brother were rescued from living with their abusive, incestuous, murderous father in a small village in Poland.

The 20-year-old woman, Paulina GIerasik, is unfortunately also being charged with incest and murder, along with her 54-year-old father Piotr. 

However, unlike in America, public sentiment seems to be that Paulina is also a victim.  Somehow many Polish people are able to understand what Americans somehow can't:  that people don't necessarily have full agency with their parents just because they've turned 18.  And maybe not with others who have been grooming or abusing them from an early age, either.

EXCLUSIVE: Polish villagers insist 'incest house of horror' daughter is an innocent victim of her depraved father and should not face trial as new images emerge of cellar where three babies were killed
I would suggest that the more intense the abuse is, the more inappropriate or extreme the boundary violations are, and the earlier they happen, the less-likely that person is to be able to have any self-determination even when they reach adulthood. 

In other words, if he started raping her as a 6 or 7-year-old, or even at 12 or 13, there was really nothing for her to do or say about any of it, I don't think, but to go along.  Especially since he's said to have beaten up the disabled brother and thrown him out of the house when he wanted to be alone with Paulina.  It sounds like Piotr was completely out of control.

So I'm glad that public sympathy is with the poor girl who was made to act as her mother -- who also died under mysterious circumstances.  Thank God Piotr's reign of terror is over with now.  Because the prosecution, for whatever reason, imagines that Paulina somehow had agency to consent. 

There's a bizarre picture of her with something that hopefully isn't baby shit smeared all over her face and stuck in her nostrils, for reasons I can't imagine.  There's another picture when he offered her on the internet for sex when she was 15.  He shaved her head at one point so other men wouldn't want her.  He's been raising her since she was 5.  He clearly just does whatever he wants to her at any given time.  It wobbles my mind to try and understand what the police are looking at when they want to blame her for any of this.    What was she meant to do, physically fight him?  And run where?

From The Daily Mail:

"Another local told Fakt newspaper: 'They lived like a couple. She called him Piotr, by his first name. They walked around hand in hand.

'A few months ago, he shaved her head so that other boys wouldn't look at her.
'She looked up to him as if he were God.'
Addressing the arrests earlier, Mariusz Duszyński from the District Prosecutor's Office in Gdańsk said: 'The woman has been charged with two counts of murder and a charge of having an incestuous relationship with her father.
'The man was charged with three counts of murder, a charge of incest with his 20-year-old daughter, and a charge of having incestuous relations with another daughter.'
According to prosecutors, two of the murdered children came from his relationship with the 20-year-old who they say was in a consensual relationship with her father.
The third baby was from a relationship he had with another daughter after forcing her into sex.
The prosecutors added that they suspected him of killing the third baby.

The grim discoveries came after police received a tip-off from social services. One of Paulina's work colleagues is reported to have alerted social services after seeing a 'disturbing' text message the 20-year-old had sent to her father.
Police found the three infant bodies in the basement of the house, each in various states of decomposition. The ground was covered in dirt and there was no solid floor where they were burred.
Moving to the village around 15 years ago, Piotr was left to bring up his children after his wife died."

I'm glad that many citizens seem to understand what the prosecutors somehow can't:  that Paulina never stood a chance against her insane father.  Listen to the things they're saying:  "She looked up to him like he was God."  That's not normal.  He has way too much control over her thinking.  She has no boundaries with him at all.   She made her hellish life as easy as possible by going along with it, and for that, they want to punish her.

I'm confident that justice will prevail now that she and her brother are finally safe from him.  She won't be found guilty, and she shouldn't be. 

I like this channel, dreading.  They do good research.  And as they note in this episode, they're respectful.

What's painful is that this young lady I believe exploited the moment of Rudy Farias' reappearance, another teen who was missing/not missing, to deflect attention from her own situation.

Because I feel like a fool for having given her a pass for her disappearance when upon further reflection, it's obvious that she was groomed, and that she had to have been staying with someone all this time.  She didn't have the resources or life skills to be on her own from the time she left.  It was foolish of me to assume she had been with other people her own age.

Come to find out she's living with a 36 year old man, and has been for at least a year.  Details in between are sketchy at best.

The two of them seem very happy together.  Because Alicia is 18 now, she's not obligated to participate in any criminal investigation about her whereabouts when she was a minor.

But if you watch the linked video, it seems fairly obvious that she met someone online who assisted her in leaving her family at the age of 14.  She's a special-needs kid.  There's virtually no chance she hasn't been sexually active with them this whole time.

In terms of her boyfriend, I watch a lot of different YouTube channels that are based on Chris Hansen's classic "To Catch A Predator," where basically they pose as people like Alicia Navarro online, in hopes of snaring guys exactly like her boyfriend.   And they all look pretty much exactly like him, unless they're even older and scrubbier.

These channels convince guys like him that they're willing to meet up in real life.  And then when they show up they actually have printouts of the chat logs, and they call law enforcement.  But they all pretend to be girls exactly like Alicia Navarro, 14 years old and tiny, and okay with meeting up with a 36-year-old who's willing to be sexually inappropriate with them even though he got fired from Walmart.

So shame on me for accepting Alicia's version of events when she gave that obviously super-vague press conference apologizing to her mother and assuring everyone that she was fine.  No, there's plenty of evidence that actually she was groomed online and has been used by a fat, balding creeper who got fired from Walmart, some 36-year-old online predator, this whole time. 

But because they hid out until she was 18, now it's all fine, just like Rudy Farias' mom. 

Because let's be clear about this:  Alicia's confusion about it is understandable.  HER BOYFRIEND'S IS NOT.  He's a grown-ass man.  He can look at her, look in a mirror, and see that he has nothing to offer her and should step away from the special-needs child.

America sickens me.

Everything is always the victim's fault.

I can only imagine the layer upon layer of fury this father must have felt. 

First he discovered that some adult was manipulating his 11-year-old daughter into sending them nude pictures of herself.  That would put me into a homicidal mood personally.  Think about it:  at 11 she hasn't had a period yet.  She has nothing to show but a child's undeveloped body.  JFC

Then when the police show up, they threaten him to charge his daughter with manufacturing child porn.  It's a complete and total failure to grasp the concept.  The cop in question has only one speed:  throw people in jail.

Luckily her chain of command has somewhat more common sense and that wasn't the direction this investigation took.  But did her father need this shit?  I think not.

My first thought in looking at the mug shot was, "He seems nice."

Sarcasm aside, sweet baby Jesus what a harrowing video.  The individual has pled guilty, so I'm not calling what's shown in the video an allegation. 

A small girl is throwing out trash steps from her home.

An adult man walks up and grabs her by the crotch.  Why can't he just see a little girl and keep walking?  I truly don't understand the compulsion to grab at her genitalia.

The man appears to keep walking, but changes his mind, doubles back, and attempts to grab the girl by the wrist.  She lets out a blood-curdling scream and wriggles away from him.   I hate to wonder what might have happened to her if she hadn't fought, but had frozen with fear instead.

We've seen men walk up and kiss congresswomen who were giving press conferences, kiss or grope TV reporters, all kinds of stupid behavior.  We saw Luis Rubiales having the audacity to say that was a consensual kiss.  A lot of men simply feel entitled to touch or kiss us when we're getting attention.

In yet another example, a reporter in Spain, Isa Balado, was reporting on a store robbery when some dude walked by and grabbed her butt. 

What's even more awkward about this incident, though, is that the in-studio host, a guy old enough to be her dad, insists that she put the guy back on the screen and interview him about it.  And she looks super uncomfortable with that. 

Also it's a little awkward that he uses the word "culo," "ass," instead of a milder word like "pompi," "butt."

But people are outraged by the whole situation.  And a politician gets involved in demanding the guy be tracked down and arrested, which does happen.  But again, this is all too common, this basic, random sort of bullying.