In one of the saddest stories of the year, a young woman was murdered after reporting a sexual assault.

This dear young girl, Isabella Scavelli, 17, filed a police report saying she had been sexually assaulted by an adult, Lenard White.

Here is a full report about the situation from Fox13News.

After Isabella and a family member made the police report, two known gang members came to their home.  Isabella answered a knock on the door.  Then she and another family member were shot.  The other family member survived, but Isabella did not. 

Four people have been charged with respect to Isabella's death.  Details are in the article linked above.

From that article:

"When you have a 17-year-old, and this particular victim, we have every reason to believe she was not engaged in any high-risk activity. She was a good kid with a very bright future and to see her life cut short is heart-wrenching to say the least. Words cannot even express it," the sheriff said.

I am also horrified by the way this girl was apparently targeted.  And I still wish the sheriff could refrain from valorizing victims.  Because he's inadvertently de-prioritizing and demonizing other victims.  Those who do engage in high-risk activities seem to deserve it when they get raped and murdered, or don't deserve to ask for help if they do get attacked, is the logical inference.

It's gross to use the unfairness of her situation, the hideous shame -- and frankly stupidity, of upgrading a rape charge to murder -- to throw other victims under the bus.

She does seem like a great kid.  She didn't deserve what happened to her -- and how devastating for the family members who witnessed it.  But nobody deserves what happened to her.  And the sheriff's statement sounds like he's not so bothered sometimes.

So the FBI has been sending me press releases about their initiative about the missing indigenous women.  I haven't looked into them because honestly, color me skeptical.

Osage Discussion Spotlights Positive Relationship Between FBI and Native Americans

For example, I haven't seen this movie yet.  I'm gearing up for it emotionally, how upsetting I'm afraid it will be.  But I've seen different Native people talking about it, film people.  So I believe it will be worth watching. 

But it just bugs me, the way the entertainment complex in America is rigged so directly with criminal justice.  It's so shameless and brazen, that they have so many open secrets, so many shallow graves, and they aren't going to do shit about any of it unless it goes viral on TikTok or Martin Scorcese does a movie.

This is a disturbing story, and an annoying one.  On the bright side, she seems to have been caught before too much damage was done to this kid's life.  She only interacted with him a few times and it was nipped in the bud.  She didn't have much physical access to him.

It bothers me every time adults sexually abuse children.  That's a large part of why I maintain this website and blog.

As a woman I can't understand why she would want a 15-year-old boy.  She's a very attractive woman who could easily get an 18 or 20-year-old man and have almost exactly the same experience, but better.  Just keeping it real. 

And to keep it even realer, I have to say that that experience would almost certainly be frustrating and boring.  Because I know people who are 15, 18, and 20 years old -- bless their hearts.  It's just weird to get naked with a 15-year-old boy.  He might not even have hair yet.  It's a sick mind game, exactly like with male molesters.

So it really annoys me, when anything like this happens, the inevitable chorus of men in the comments.  I encourage you to read the YouTube comments on this video and see for yourself the victim mentality, and the pure lack of information men have about sexual violence and the way  things play out in the criminal justice system in real life. 

They see guys occasionally getting prison time for "to Catch a Predator" type stings where there is no girl, and forget all about the many men who rape underage girls and also plea down to probation-only.  Justice is extremely uneven in America.  But it hardly favors women in sexual matters.

• Men believe that if the shoe were on the other foot, that if a male molester were caught with a 15-year-old girl, he'd go to prison for years!
• There's always the assertion that people don't think it's bad or harmful somehow if it's a woman abusing a boy.  But the only people who ever assert that are men.  I don't think I've ever met a woman who thinks this is anything but disgusting, whereas men find it sexy all the time.  I stopped watching Curb Your Enthusiasm when they did a "hot for teacher" episode.
• Adult men rape underage girls and get probation only through the miracle of plea bargaining all the time.  And then they go on to commit all kinds of violent crimes, go figure.  Somehow this goes unnoticed.
• Again, if you know of any women who think adult women having sex with underage boys is okay, please notify this author and I will look into it.

Daniel Holtzclaw is my classic example of not needing to hear the other side of the story, because someone's own version of events makes them sound guilty.

Robert DeNiro might be my new prime example, becuase holy mackerel.  I never heard anything about any of this, because I really don't care about celebrity gossip, movies, or whatever.  I like some of the movies he's in for obvious reasons.  But yuck, good Lord.  As a survivor some of this is so self-evident.

The Daily Beast

"While testifying last Tuesday, the actor denied her claims, calling them “nonsense.” His lawyers portrayed him as a victim of a woman scorned, alleging Robinson was looking to cause “drama and conflict.” He allowed, however, that he might have called Robinson a “bitch” and a “fucking spoiled brat” in instances where her behavior frustrated him.

“I berated her,” he said. “I wasn’t abusive. I was annoyed.”"

DARVO is a helpful acronym for a common tactic employed by abusive people when confronted with their bad behavior:  Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.  Above is a classic example.  "I berated her.  I called her a bitch and a fucking brat.  But that wasn't abusive.  I was annoyed.  That's just her being a woman scorned, and also she's a thief."   But then the court found that no, she wasn't a thief.

This is where it all goes off the rails.

"What’s more, Robinson testified, she was treated as De Niro’s “office wife,” subjected to “stereotypically female job duties” that were “inconsistent with her job title,” including scratching his back. (The actor acknowledged in court that he had made the back-scratching requests, adding, “You got me!”)

While De Niro’s team claimed Robinson left Canal after “suspicions arose” over her “honesty, integrity, work ethic and motivation,” the 41-year-old said in her countersuit that she’d been forced out by De Niro over escalating tensions with his girlfriend of five years, Tiffany Chen.
In emails to De Niro shown in court, Chen called Robinson “a mean, insecure, territorial girl” who had dreamed up a “demented imaginary intimacy” with him.
Questioned about her emails on the stand, Chen held little back. “She’s crazy,” she said, adding at various points that Robinson was “a hot mess,” “nuts,” and “psychotic.”

That last paragraph really comes across as pure projection, obvious on its face due to the context.  Robinson is complaining about being treated as an "office wife."  She doesn't like being asked to scratch his back, for example.  Being called a bitch or spoiled brat are overly personal.  What a great job she did of proving Robinson's case.  She and DeNiro are perfect for each other and Robinson is well out of there.  Pay the lady.