What is there to say?  This kind of shit happens all the time, and has been the case all my life.  Women can't just walk down the street by ourselves.  We've been told, all my life:  Be careful about what you wear.  Walk in groups.  Only in the daytime.  Put your keys between your fingers.  Have mace.  Even then you might get thrown to the pavement just because Kevin's flipping out today.

This judge spoke for me when she said she was absolutely haunted by the injuries inflicted on these children.

As a survivor of two narcissistic parents, this case really got to me.  The sheer brutality and callousness of these two, their pure disregard for the hell they put those boys through, staggers the imagination.  Whatever slovenly, heinous rom-com they imagined they were living in, they believed it justified having those children live the way they were living.  I can't even bring myself to detail it in this blog.  I die inside every time I think about what they endured.

Because these two "people," this failure and the mother of the children, just went about their business day in and day out, while the boys lived in a sort of indescribable torment that one of them didn't survive.  Every day for those kids was an endurance challenge that few adults could have managed, seriously.  The physical stress alone is unimaginable, much less the psychological anguish they were put through.

Narcissism and Cluster B personality disorders are about being a coward, one who fears showing up in life.  The kind of hero who tattoos "warrior" on his neck and then beats an autistic child to death.  Someone who feels so incredibly inadequate that they instead build a fake persona and decide to live inside of there.  And in order to do that, it requires human sacrifices, the destruction of real, living, humans. 

And very often it's too much work to overtake other adults, because they're not really that smart or skilled.  So they do their own "build a bear" thing, like Gloria Williams and my mom, by pushing them out.  They can create their own captive audience of people to crap on and place themselves above, simply by humping dirty dogs like Brian Coulter.

These two were running a mini concentration camp for Gloria's children.  Not by design.  That's just how it worked out for them, how many shits Gloria had left over at the end of each day.  Her mother tried to take custody of Kendrick and care for him.  She saw this coming.  But Gloria wouldn't have it.  She built her own little punching bear fair and square, she insisted on keeping him so she could abandon his corpse.

So yeah, I wish I could feel great for the other three.  At least they do have a loving grandmother and Gloria's sisters seem like they might be okay, IDK.  But I know that the Turpin kids went on to get re-abused.  God help the Franke kids.  It's such an uphill battle even if they were to go somewhere really, really good. And I have so little faith in wherever they will land.

But after all that they went through, I'm not sure people can even imagine their ordeals really.  And then Brian had the audacity to go to actual trial.  He's so utterly remorseless for the harm he's already caused them, that he dragged them through America's adversarial legal process, as if there were some planet on which he might be acquitted.  There's no ordeal he wouldn't put them through, because he still DGAF.

I'm glad there were no  victim impact statements.  He doesn't deserve the opportunity to ever ignore them again.

I'm covering this just to lighten the mood a little.  Because the girls were right to make a complaint.  Whatever these two weirdos were up to, nothing good would have come of it. 

KSL TV5:

"Clinton police launch internal investigation after women report ‘concerning’ officer encounter"

First point, they were correct to report this sketchy behavior. 

The first thing I did was look it up on a map.  The spot where Jannie Ligons got raped by a cop back in 2014 was really terrifying at that hour of the morning, very remote.  Nobody would have heard her screaming. 

That was not the case here, it doesn't seem like.  Roy, Utah is a very suburban-looking area with lots of homes.  I'm not sure how far they drove from the initial encounter.  These women weren't in the same kind of danger as Ligons.  But it was still very odd.

"ROY — Two women are recounting an interaction with a Clinton police officer during a traffic stop in Roy that left them concerned. The department is now launching an investigation to see if what the officer did violated policy.The women said they were pulled over in Roy by the Triple Stop, but their worries started well before they saw flashing lights in the rear-view mirror.
In a day and age when you can’t be too cautious, Tailor Butterfield explained how she quickly grew suspicious of a plain, white SUV that started following her Tuesday night as she and her girlfriend Virginia Jensen drove home in West Haven.
The two said the vehicle pulled up to a four-way stop at the same time as them and had the right-of-way. The women waited for the other vehicle to go, they said, and when it didn’t, they went instead.
That SUV then turned behind them, and Butterfield described how as they got closer to her home, the vehicle was specifically staying behind them.

Butterfield, who was driving Jensen’s car, said they drove past their house because they were nervous to pull into the driveway, not knowing the intent of the person behind them. They turned around in their cul-de-sac and started driving the other way.
Home surveillance from Butterfield’s home shows the white SUV stopped on the side of the road, then suddenly flipping a quick U-turn to keep following the women.
“As soon as he turned around and followed us, we were like, ‘OK… He’s following us. We need help,'” Butterfield recounted.
Jensen said they began to drive toward the Roy police station a couple of miles away.
“I was like, at what point do we like, call 911?” she questioned.
As the two approached the Roy Triple Stop near South 3500 West and West 4800 South, a hidden light bar in the SUV’s windshield lit up. Butterfield pulled over but only grew more scared.
Butterfield said two men got out of the unmarked SUV, but one man stayed behind Jensen’s car. The other approached the driverside window, flashing a flashlight, Butterfield said, and hitting her face with the light.
“He tells me to put my hands on the steering wheel. And then he tells Virginia to put hers on the dash,” Butterfield said.
She said the officer was dressed in all black, and not in a traditional uniform.
“He was in like full SWAT gear, like with like helmet, goggles, flashlight and with like headphones,” she described.
He asked them both for their driver’s licenses and as he went back to his SUV, the women started wondering why they were pulled over.
When he walked back up, they said he told them that Jensen’s license plate frame was partially covering the plate and it was hard to read.
“He said I was crossing a line when I was turning left,” Butterfield said, of what else he told her.

“We rolled past the stop line before completing our stop at a stop sign,” Jensen said, of the third minor traffic law the officer told them they violated.
“Like, it just seemed like nitpicky reasons,” Butterfield thought.
The officer let the women go, but they worried the two men were impersonating police and weren’t really law enforcement.

“I didn’t see any markings that he was like a police officer or like a cop, nothing,” Butterfield said. “And so, I just became really suspicious.” [emphasis added]

The suspicions grew after the response they got when they went to Roy police the next day, where the department confirmed the main officer on the stop wasn’t one of theirs." [emphasis added]

Okay, look.  The next day is too late to find out they're fake cops, after you've put your hands on the dash and handed them your licenses.  I'm just saying.  You need real identification in that scenario. 

With two women in the car, one of them should already have been on the phone to 911 about the weirdos who pulled the U-turn on them, as soon as they started pulling them over.  I'm not victim-shaming, just giving you the "true crime for survivors," the after-incident review so we can get better outcomes for everybody next time.

"“He seemed really concerned, like all of this is just so weird,” Jensen said, of the officer at the department.

It turned out it was a Clinton officer, and the department said in a release it launched an internal investigation after receiving a formal complaint. Butterfield said her father made the complaint.
“The investigation will scrutinize the specifics of the traffic stop, including the adherence to department policies and protocols, and determine if any conduct or procedural violations occurred,” the release stated.
The statement went on to say that cross-jurisdictional enforcement is “not routine,” but that the department “maintains strong relationships with neighboring departments.”"

Right.  So here's my public-safety veteran $0.02.  I never worked law enforcement.  But I did work both fire and paramedic.  And we did this "strong relationships with neighboring departments" that he mentions.  We called it "mutual aid," which means picking up calls for neighboring counties as needed, overflow in logical areas. 

I also noticed that the police had like six different ways to work SWAT that I had known nothing about as a civilian citizen.  Some opportunities existed to attend those as a medic.  I saw that there were certain subgroups, cliques and subcultures that were heavily into spending tax money on toys, wearing batman belts, and being super gung-ho in general. 

So I'm looking at that situation in Roy, Utah, those little suburban homes around that Quick Stop or whatever.  And here's my theory of the case.   ALLEGEDLY.

I'm guessing that two of the more gung-ho type yokels, who happen to be buddies, were hanging out in costume speculating on which of their coworkers were gay, because they had too much time and money on their hands.  I was amazed how many of my fire/paramedic coworkers spent their entire downtimes doing that. 

When they saw the Hannah Gadsby fans pull up, instead of proceeding, they decided to follow them.  You know why?  Because they're strapped up for MS-13, but they'll settle for antifa LOL  They're bored and overfunded as fuck in Roy, Utah.  That's why.  Power-tripping bullies who have all this equipment they've never had a chance to use.  That's why.

"The department declined to interview with KSL TV but explained in the statement that the officer was in full tactical gear on the “routine traffic stop” because of an assignment on the U.S. Marshals Violent Felony Apprehension Strike Team.

Even so, the couple feels the officer didn’t properly explain who he was and why he stopped them. They also plan to file formal complaints with the department."

The US Marshals Violent Felony Apprehension Strike Team?  LOL  Sure.

No, in real life he needs to identify what agency is pulling you over, who he's representing on the stop and why.  That's the first thing, first order of business on his part.

I once got pulled over on a thing called Oatman Highway after dark.  That's out in the desert between Needles, California and Kingman, Arizona.  I was there by mistake and had no idea what a bad place it was to be.  I was so exhausted.  But I only needed to go another 13 miles.

There wasn't a light or sign of humanity anywhere in sight once I left that gas station and got onto Oatman Highway.  After about three miles someone got behind me.  It's a 35-mph highway, and that never got better. 

In fact it got worse; extreme dips, curves, giant rocks in the road.  Not a single light except from my vehicle. And this person getting really close behind me.  There was no way to turn around.  It was like stunt driving, every bit as stressful as driving emergency traffic with someone dying in the back in rush hour.

Who was this person that had fallen in behind me?  And why were they crawling up my ass in the middle of nowhere?  Was I being driven into an ambush?  As soon as I saw the opportunity, I jumped off to the right.

He immediately put the light bar and followed me.

He also lit up a flood light that lit up his vehicle.  Then I could see, for the first time, the markings of a proper law enforcement agency.  He was in a uniform.  He did not appear to be drunk or insane.  He wasn't Walter White and Jesse Pinkman stealing my moving van.

If you've read this blog at all, you'll know that me realizing he's a real policeman doesn't convince me I'm not about to get raped, murdered, and robbed of all of my belongings out in the desert.  I understand that the person with all of the guns gets to do whatever the fuck they want out on Oatman Highway.

He explained that Oatman Highway is a major drug and human trafficking corridor.  So he can't just let a shiny Penske moving van roll through there without checking it out.  And that made perfect sense to me.  In that very moment I knew I wasn't getting Holtzclawed.

But right up until then?  I didn't.  I just didn't have any other move other than calling the person I was meeting on the phone, which I had already done.  Just tell people what's happening and where.  I couldn't turn around and go back to civilization.

So that situation could have been really, really bad.  But it wasn't.  In my case, that officer would have been remiss in his duties to not sniff me up.  I shouldn't have been there.  I might have gotten killed had he not escorted me back to I-40.  At one point he said, "You wouldn't want to be out here in bad weather."  I said, "I don't want to be here now," do I need the agita?

I had no way of knowing that he was creeping up on me to try to call in my plates.  And it took him so long to do that, even after he had me stopped.  We sat out there for almost 45 minutes until he could confirm the van wasn't stolen.

Good for these women, good for her father for making the complaint.  Mutual aid, police from two different agencies working together, is based on need.  They don't cross jurisdictions for piddly shit like this.  We would cross county lines when they were too swamped and vice versa.  This is nonsense and they know it.  Federal Marshal Violent My Ass.

And yet nothing will be done, because this is a sign of severe bloat and rot that starts at the head and goes down, involving both agencies where both of these dorks work.

Once again, the woman shown in this video is innocent of all charges until proven guilty in a court of law.  There is some possibility that what appears to be her pummeling a non-verbal special needs child is not exactly what it looks like. 

I truly struggle to remember that there's a human being under that fake hair, a little child who was clearly abused in some way and grew into a severely damaged adult who can pass for normal enough to clear a background check.

Now, why such a person would seek a job working with children who couldn't possibly report any injuries they might receive?  One could only speculate.  Maybe it's the same reason pedophiles traditionally sought roles as Catholic priests.

But really when I saw that video, and the photos of the injuries sustained by various children over the six months of this woman's employment -- which could be entirely coincidental because again she's innocent until proven guilty -- part of me truly wanted to beat her with a bat until she stopped moving.  I viscerally, deeply, wanted to violate and murder her in the worst possibly ways.  Her smug, shitty face in her mug shot.

And I don't approve of the death penalty under any circumstances, much less dishing it out myself.  So this was really challenging for me.  I had to work through my stuff to reclaim my recognition of this woman's humanity.  I really can't look at things about child abuse while the children are still children, before they've survived into adulthood.  Sometimes it just destabilizes me too much.

What a heartbreaking, devastating video.  Look at the look on that woman's face.  She can't even believe this crazy old coot, William Brock, is pointing a gun at her this way  Worse yet, he allegedly does shoot her to death.  He's innocent until proven guilty.

In another example of America gone completely insane, where everybody's first instinct is to kill someone, the above Uber driver was set up to be murdered.

The old coot in the video was allegedly receiving some scam phone calls about an imprisoned relative.  He was told to put together a cash payment of $12,000 or he and that relative would be killed.

Uber driver Loletha Hall received a trip to go pick up a package at Brock's address.  But since Brock is even older than Hall, he apparently doesn't understand how Uber works.  So he just couldn't resist killing her, because this is America where PEW PEW PEW.

That video is just horrifying.  Ms. Hall could barely walk for God's sake.  She was no threat to him whatsoever.  She was retreating and screaming for help. 

Common sense would tell you he could've held her there until the police arrived.  Shot her tire out to prevent her from leaving, if he was so sure she was one of the gang.  If he's proven guilty in a court of law, what a stupid, malignant, murderous asshole.

Words absolutely fail me on how needless this shooting was.  This is why I'm in the world and not of it.

What's so hilarious about the Ladies' Lounge is that it was such a perfect piss-take.  Ten out of ten stars.

In creating a "Ladies' Lounge" and deeming it for women only, other than attractive men under 25 who may serve as butlers, Kirsha Kaechele has done some trolling that would make Andy Kauffman beam with pride.  She created a scenario in which she could not lose.

Inside the Tasmanian museum, the Ladies Lounge was a private space for women only.  The best pieces in the collection were hoarded there.  The idea came from the old days, when women weren't allowed in public bars in Australia, so they'd have a separate "Ladies Lounge."  One teeny-tiny little example of how we've been getting ordered around since forever.

It's interesting to me that Kaechele is apparently an American, where gender discrimination is still fully legal.  And so this entire performance definitely wouldn't have ended the same way, a point she never brings up, and the Tasmanians don't seem to notice.  Jason Lau probably wouldn't have won his case in America, because it's fully constitutional to discriminate based on gender here, as far as I know. 

As I understand it, it's 100% legal in my country to pay me less and charge me more based on my gender, cradle to grave.  There were more things I was excluded from than what I was eligible for growing up, seriously.  I'm from 1964.

So everything about Jason Lau getting ass-chafed enough to take her to court because he couldn't go into one art exhibit out of a whole museum?  Makes me belly laugh.   He couldn't even grasp the concept after it was explained to him.

The Guardian:
"Lau argued that denying men access to some of the museum’s most important works (there is a Sidney Nolan, a Pablo Picasso and a trove of antiquities from Mesopotamia, Central America and Africa in the women-only space) is discriminatory. Kaechele said that was the point."

Holy shit Jason Lau wouldn't survive being a woman for one day, not an hour. I didn't get to see a Picasso!  Call me a waaaaaahmbulance :(  And then a lawyer.  Because seriously I'm that big of  a manbaby LOL

"Kaechele admits the museum has amassed a “large file” of complaints over Ladies Lounge. But apart from the current case, only one other complainant has sought formal redress.

“Like Jason, he felt it was sexual discrimination and wanted access for men. And when I said, ‘well, men can’t come in’, he said ‘then why should I have to pay the same amount if I don’t get to experience the artwork?’ And I said, ‘you do experience the artwork, because the rejection is the artwork’. And he understood that and he appreciated it and he dropped the case.”

Okay, sure.  But this bit:

"Then why should I have to pay the same amount if I don’t get to experience the artwork?’"

You know, do they ever ask themselves that when they're paying us less and charging us more, why should women participate with them?  Because I'm pretty sure they know that's a thing and always has been.  I'm pretty sure they all know why there's a ladies' lounge.  It's because men insisted on throwing us out and in general being huge jerks from time immemorial and counting.  So all of this is a huge fuck-you if you don't like it IMHO.

And it was just winning and ten times more winning for Kirsha Kaechele, and me, and everyone else who totally gets it. 

Because you can't force consent.

You can't stop somebody from not giving a fuck about you and not wanting to hang out with you.  There's no way you can force that woman to care what you think or want you around.  She's three steps ahead of both Jason Lau and the judge who sided with him.  She will always be ten times cooler and have more fun than both of them put together.

VICE:

"In his decision, [Judge] Grueber commented Kaechele’s appearance at the hearing, where she was accompanied by 25 women in navy business attire and pearls.

In what Kaechele later described as an extension of the artwork, the cohort had performed synchronised movements during proceedings , including leaning forward, crossing their legs, and peering over their spectacles.

Grueber said while it didn’t disrupt the hearing, “it was inappropriate, discourteous and disrespectful, and at worst contumelious and contemptuous.”"

Well, I thoroughly enjoyed it.  And Jason Lau, whose mega tantrum this whole thing was in the first place, actually got much more than $35 worth of entertainment, didn't he?  That's what baby Huey was suing over, a $35 art ticket. 

Just MWAH, the whole thing.  Suing her about this, or ruling against her with the word "contumelious," was such a football bat, such a soup sandwich for the incel community.

Because the whole thing always was performance art, which by definition must come to an organic conclusion.  And Jason Lau volunteered to be the stooge.  That lack of self-awareness is like a grave that just keeps getting deeper the more you dig.

Congratulations, professor.  You'll never get in there.  She's closing The Ladies Lounge rather than open it to you.  And you gave her the perfect way to shut it down with a bang instead of a whimper. 

At first this really did piss me off because I saw it being about consent.  It couldn't have ended better.  Thanks, Jason Lau.

What really sucks about being a rape survivor is that our biggest wins are only ever bittersweet.  Because at the end of the day, Bruce Lehrmann still gets away with having raped Brittany Higgins.  And I don't have to say "alleged"!  He can go fuck himself if he wants to sue me.  That's the good news.  Because the judge just said so LOL

What happened here was that there was a rape trial that got skewered by juror misconduct.  It would've had to be started all over again.  And the survivor's mental health precluded that.  So the matter was dropped.

But because the assault took place inside the House of Parliament, and the two people were political operatives, it became a cause celebre.  And the rapist felt like he shouldn't have to be called a rapist in the news after not being punished for rape, because entitlement.  He wanted a crystal clear slate as if she consented, when she was clearly too drunk to have done so.  So he sued.

And then he lost!  LOL! 

CNN:

"The ruling delivers a devastating blow to Lehrmann’s attempt to clear his name. As [Judge] Lee put it in his judgement: “Having escaped the lion’s den, Mr Lehrmann made the mistake of going back for his hat.”

MWAH

Meanwhile, there's something horrible about watching the lawyers crow about what a huge win this is for the TV network, blah blah blah.  Because no, it really isn't a huge win.  It's a big pile of shit wherein a woman got raped.  And then after a bunch of public humiliation for her and no prison for him, the rapist got to make a much huger to-do when she again didn't want to.  He actually won again, in a way, by dictating the narrative.

Then again, the actual rape case could be re-brought.  So it was all-around one of the dumbest own-goals in a while.

The above network, Law and Crime, has gone from dubious/questionable/typical "true crime" to full-on incel bait.  It's just another corner of the world that I have to avoid now, for my own mental health.  I'm afraid this is the new "Karen."  It's the next way America's misogynistic, dishonest, capitalist media conglomerate plans to exploit human suffering vis-a-vis true crime.

One reason I don't participate in online discussions anymore is the way people would constantly retort "Well don't watch XYZ then if it bothers you."  Because for people who live with that degree of privilege -- the vast majority of people who enjoy true crime, it's that simple.  It's their world, and survivors are just the squirming roadkill who shouldn't annoy them while they munch popcorn.

When the Jimmy Kimmel fans are sneering, "Don't watch it then" over their shoulders, they're not tallying up how many other people have already told me that. 

They don't know or care how many different corners of the world have to be added to that list of "places that are safe for rape culture and not for me," which now includes Law and Crime Network.  Right?  It's like standing on the globe and being painted into a corner that gets tinier and tinier all the time, like rainforests.  So now this blog that nobody reads is the only place I say anything on the internet, where I don't have to listen to Kevin's misinformed bullshit.

Below is a sample of the fucknuttery that Law and Crime has apparently deemed the best business model for themselves going forward in 2024.  I say this after watching them ramp up the reporting on cases where a white, female teacher has been caught raping students.  And the emphasis is on how minimal the punishment is for child  sexual abuse when women do it, because that really inflames Kevin's sense of victimhood, which is where we hit the cha-ching button in America.

Everything about the comments on that video make me wish I lived on a different plant for real.

The people at Law and Crime Network can't possibly be as ignorant about how criminal justice actually works here on Earth 1 in America, that:

1. Men commit sexual assault at much higher rates than women overall (I'd love to be proven wrong by actual facts)
2. The punishment in America is grossly uneven all the way across the board, nothing is ever fair here
3. Male teachers -- and other authority figures -- routinely get little or no prison time for raping minors
4. Nothing is new about any of this.  Children are the primary abuse targets of women because (a) they're often the caretakers and (b) men aren't vulnerable to women the same way children are, duh
5. The only people who appreciate or enjoy female teachers sexually abusing male children are men.  I've literally never heard any woman admit to finding that hot or sexy.  Meanwhile, back on Earth 1, men eat that shit up all the time.  No, really.  I stopped watching Curb Your Enthusiasm, which I had been enjoying quite well up until then, when they did a "hot for teacher" episode.  Fucking disgusting.
   
6. Men are also the ones who fetishize the Catholic school uniform, and can't be told how shitty that is for real-life Catholic schoolgirls.  There isn't the reciprocal thing where adult women also routinely lust after schoolboys.  Adult women who rape schoolchildren are seen as sick assholes by other women. 
   
7. I've never seen Law and Crime mention the marital status of any male child rapist, and they do it with with the lady molesters often enough.  Why is that relevant, other than to further stoke the male victimhood?
   
8. Not only is she "married," she repeatedly "had sex with" her student -- not "rape" or "sexually abuse" him -- before getting probation only.  So they're perpetrating a double standard in multiple ways with their mega-clickbait, rage-inducing title.
   

I'm glad that there are now cameras everywhere, showing the realities of life for children.  Because this is not a new thing. 

It's bullshit that children are now being given safety tips the way women always have been:  stay off your cell phones, walk in groups.  Don't wear short skirts, don't walk alone at night.  When will we ever turn our focus to men and policing their behaviors?  When will preventing these incidents ever become the responsibility of adult men?

What's so highly disturbing about the complaints against Ryan Dornbos -- who is innocent until proven guilty of all charges against him -- is that he's not only a police officer.  He's a coach at two different middle schools.  Or at least he was, right up until the criminal investigation, as discussed in the linked video.

This is all brand new and rapidly developing.  Dornbos' alleged victim disclosed her complaints at a sleepover party, prompting an investigation at his employer department.

There are documents referenced, but not shown, in the linked video that discuss numerous allegations of Dornbos harming women and alleging more than one victim.  But they don't give any more details.

Big Rapids News:
"On Jan. 1, the BRDPS was notified that officer Ryan Dornbos was a suspect in an active criminal investigation, according to a news release from BRDPS. At that time, the city of Big Rapids placed Dornbos on administrative leave and initiated an internal investigation.

Dornbos had turned himself in to the Fremont Police Department, which conducted and completed an independent criminal investigation, then informed BRDPS of its results and submission to the prosecution.

Upon the completion of BRDPS' internal investigation, the department terminated Dornbos."

It's unlikely that I will be able to follow up on this guy.  There are just so many of them.