The Women of Rape Culture

Every once in a while I see something that makes the world feel survivable for me, like this video by Kidology.  Kudos to her for having an intact moral compass.

In the above-linked video, she discusses a few trends in true crime of which I was completely and blissfully unaware:

• Cookies and crime
• Makeup and crime
• Completely fake true crime

Of the above three, the only one I will endorse is the last.  I recommend everyone doing the first two immediately please switch to the last sort, thanks.

Apparently some people have started doing faceless AI-only YouTube channels that generate fake crimes and report them.  For example, a family where the stepfather kills the stepson because they're having a gay affair.  And none of that is true!  It's all just some nonsense generated by AI, including the names and photographs.  And the people who watch this shit don't bother to verify anything, because they DGAF.

I think that's fantastic.  That's called "crime stories," aka "fiction."  GO FOR IT!  Leave us real people who have been through violent trauma the fuck alone!  We're not TV characters, whose misery you can enjoy not giving a fuck about while you do your makeup.  Really, examine your life, bitch.  Shift over to actual fiction.  Draw boundaries.  Find some way to get attention and earn money that doesn't feast on another woman's corpse.

Because the first two, the "cookies and crime," and the "makeup and crime," those are the domains of the worst sort of people:  the women of rape culture.  This sort of true crime is for women who are completely immune to the actuality of rape as lived by real-life survivors.  These are the same ones who will reflexively say, "He-said, she-said," because none of it is really real to them until it happens to themselves personally. 

These are the pick-mes, the frenemies who won't have your back -- especially not if you get attacked by a celebrity or a sportsballer.  They think whatever happened to you was a TV plot.  Your makeup wasn't running artfully while you were crying, which distracted them, so they weren't listening to your words.   

And if your narrative as a survivor is even mildly inconvenient to their agenda, trust and believe, they will claim to be survivors in order to contradict you.  People who never again discuss rape or sexual violence, will say they're survivors that one time just to shut me the fuck up.  Not that they're lying.  They have nothing else to say about it, only claim the label that one time, to silence me.  Check their blogs forever, and it will never again come up.  This is who they are as human beings.  There is no fact-checking anywhere.  There is no credibility factoring.  Everybody just says BLAH BLAH BLAH and the loudest idiot wins.  America is an idiot of a country.  A corrupt and rapey one, too.

So whenever anything happens, they are also the first and loudest poppers-off.  Anybody mentions violence against women?  Well by cracky, they've got an opinion!  Why?  Because they've got a whole head full of stories from cookies/makeup and crime!  And so if I have anything to say that contradicts wherever they're coming from, well, I'm severely fucking outnumbered, aren't I?  Or even if I'm not contradicting them, I could never be heard over them.  Actually getting raped sets you back in the world, unlike being loud and narcissistic.  That gets you ahead.

I thank God for this young lady who made the Kidology video.  What a breath of fresh air, an occasional sane or self-aware young person, capable of human decency.

I will again point out that the actual problem is the lack of resolution, overall.  The problem is that in America, our law enforcement is very heavily skewed toward property crime.  Crimes against people aren't really prosecuted unless the person is someone important.  And women have never been equal to men under the US Constitution.  America has always been a male supremacy.